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I am using the word "Trans" in the broadest sense, to include labels like genderqueer, transgender and transsexual. This was originally written from my own experience as a white Transperson/FTM who is perceived as both female and male. Of course, every Trans person is different, and would write this list differently. Also, some things, which are totally inappropriate with strangers or acquaintances, may be fine or welcomed in the context of a trusting relationship.

Hi there. Some of you may know me from the forum (I’m the deluded, China-obsessed one). My name is Tom, and I’m…. NOT an alcoholic, no, heaven forbid. But I am homophobic. Well, not homophobic to the ignorant, bigoted fundamentalist sense of the word (but you have to admit, without them “lovelies”, none of this gay comedy would exist. Do we humans love controversy or what?). What I go through, how I react… If I lashed out on the forum and let rip, I could be classed as homophobic.

A mix of opinion, fact, jokes, fears, reality and the good moments

When I started university I was still a guy. Sure, I had (very) long hair and was openly derisive of masculinity but I was still a guy called (this hasn’t ever been my real name by the way) Marcus Dennis. I was so much of a guy that my nickname (never used to my face) was “the scary weird bi guy”. It wasn’t, and still isn’t, a gay friendly place - probably something to do with 90% of the students being male and it being in a small town in the midlands which at the time didn’t even have a gay bar

How many gay people do you know? Two or three perhaps, if you live in a relatively cosmopolitan area, maybe less if you live in a small town or village. Now imagine what it must be like being that gay person. The one people think of when they want to remind themselves that they are “in-touch” with modern issues, that they posses that hint of new labour which puts them a fraction to the left on the political compass, wrapping them up in their PC blanket.